Divorce presents a big change in your life. Along with inciting a major change in your personal life, divorce is a significant event in your children’s lives, and you may worry about how they will cope with it.
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, in 2018, 782,038 divorces and annulments happened in the U.S. Divorce is a common event for many families, and there are steps you can take to make telling your children about it easier on your children.
1. Write down what you want to say
You may be overcome with emotion when you sit down to tell your children about your divorce. For this reason, write down what both you and your spouse want to let your children know before you have the conversation.
2. Avoid placing blame
If your divorce is not amicable, you may want to blame your spouse in front of your children for the end of your marriage. Avoid doing this and present a united front to your children.
3. Prepare to help your children work through their emotions
Your children may experience a variety of emotions after you tell them about your divorce. For instance, they may be angry, resentful, withdrawn or even relieved, depending on the state of our marriage.
Plan on helping your children work through these emotions in the days after you tell them about your divorce. Your children may need more of your attention than usual at this time, but your continual support can help them cope with this major change in their lives.